Transfer Day: October 5th, 2020
Today is the day. Today determines if our life is going to change forever, in a good way… what a difference. I am a ball of nerves. After the last transfer failed, I was okay. That transfer day didn’t feel right, I knew in my gut that baby wasn’t meant to be ours here on Earth. This may sound weird, but nothing felt right about that time.
Last night, I couldn’t sleep. I was so excited. The Surrogate and I promised to do everything different than we did last time. So to start, our surrogate came in the day before the transfer instead of the day of. We made a promise to mitigate all stress! Starting with pedicures the night before the transfer! We went to Viva Day Spa for a full pampering, then went to Target to get red pajamas! As red, in our Italian Family, symbolizes prosperity and fertility. We were also going to wear red to the transfer!
Day of the transfer, I picked the surrogate up from her Hotel and we jetted to acupuncture before the transfer. Because of COVID, I was going to grab coffee at a local favorite of mine, while the surrogate went in for the procedure. The receptionist made a comment that I should try San Francisco bakery across the parking lot. I had already had it in my head to go to Epoch Coffee. Epoch was just on the other side of the acupuncture facility so I started my walk. On my walk, I prayed. I prayed to Mother Mary, Jesus and my father for guidance and strength during this process. Selfishly, I continue to pray for signs that this was going to happen.
When I lifted my head as I turned the corner of Epoch, I saw a line all the way past the building. So, I looked around for another plan. There it was, San Francisco Bakery with no one inside. So, in my heels, I tramped across the parking lot. Upon entering, there were two ladies behind the counter and the smell was amazing. (At this point, I know you are very confused on how this story got to a bakery, but I promise, keep reading.) The two women were so kind and when I looked up, the older lady was wearing a Marvel shirt. I just started crying. For this woman’s age, it is not normal to see them rocking a super-cool Marvel Comics shirt, but on top of that, our surrogate has a unique tie to the comics. This was one of the first signs. I explained to the two ladies why I was crying as they packaged up my croissants and they prayed for me. It made me feel so good.
I went to grab the surrogate and we were off to the transfer! We sat in different seats, were placed in a different room for the procedure, and the valium actually made the surrogate a little loopy!! We were giggling and talking about life, careers, the baby, our futures, and our new found friendship. God put the surrogate in my life for WAY more than bringing our baby into the world, although, baby is the number one reason! The embryologist came in and showed us our little embryo and scared the shit out of us. She said the embryo didn’t expand correctly for the picture and I started to panic asking questions. Turns out, the embryo was great but got shy when the embryologist went to take its picture. (That has to be Sam’s side of the family, I am a camera hog.)
After the transfer, we went to grab lunch at North in the Domain! We sat and enjoyed each other, ate great food on the patio and then I took the surrogate to her first-ever Kendra Scott! For those of you who know me, know that Kendra Scott has played a huge part in my life. Her jewelry has given me comfort and made me feel pretty in times when I didn’t want to be seen. I had been eyeing this one necklace for months but could never afford it. IT WAS ON SALE FOR $60!!!! Like, WHAT?! So I snagged it! The surrogate found a few pieces she was interested in but we had to rush to acupuncture.
Second round of acupuncture after the transfer. During that time, I FaceTimed my mother and told her everything about the day! When the surrogate came out, we jetted downtown to Kendra Scott Flagship! Shopped around, laughed, and talked about baby! Then off to home goods to get a blanket and back to the hotel!
We were together from 9am-5pm today, it was the best day I have had in a long time. I feel so hopeful and like this is going to work. Praying for the surrogate and baby.
